We saw a couple in a store one time. The wife started speaking louder and sounded pretty upset.
To my husband it seemed that she was upset without much reason. He didn’t see or hear anything before that so she probably was overreacting.
To me, it was obvious that she was exhausted from the broken communication between the two of them.
We neither one ever found out what was the reason for their argument that day several years ago.
But marriage has been under attack since Adam and Eve.
We want to blame.
Whatever has happened (and it looks different in each situation) HOW do you find the way to truly forgive and still live with someone who caused such damage?
The enemy wants to separate and isolate each of us and he does this in about a billion custom-designed, clever ways (including all those things we run to for imitation comfort.)
Here’s the best answer I can find.
“You want to make this a fight of flesh and blood.
But it’s not.
It’s spiritual with the powers of darkness.
The enemy is AFRAID of what YOU can truly become.”
-the movie King’s Faith
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. -Ephesians 6:12
Prayer. And The Incredible Power of The God behind the prayer.
God, ONLY YOU KNOW the inside of each marriage. Please heal broken lives and hearts. Please revive and make stronger what has been under attack for so very long. Please let Your words be spoken and let us see each other with Your eyes. In Jesus’ Name, please God, Amen.
[P.S. I’ve found this helps with more than marriage. I try to remember this now when I’m upset with anyone or any situation. There’s probably ALWAYS more than we can see with our eyes.]
[Note: Forgiveness and staying daily in a dangerous situation are NOT the same things (though there are those who disagree.) God gave us wisdom and I believe we should use it. I do not EVER hope for divorce though I’ve been through it and through abusive situations and I do and will ALWAYS pray for safety for everyone.]
Know what satan wants to destroy? I mean, besides EVERYTHING.
Marriages. Because when marriage is great, we can serve others in such a big way. When marriage is broken, we spend so much time trying to fix it.
Give your marriage to God. HE is enough. He has worked miracles in our marriage. When we can go from not liking each other and wanting to not be together so much to a place of healing and smiling and actually liking each other again within a matter of a day, I believe that is God’s hand in our marriage.
Sometimes it’s easier to “love” and serve someone than it is to “like” him or her and want to spend time together.
God is in the business of restoring people, hearts, marriages, and a lot more!
ASK God to mend your marriage. And I’ll be praying over this for you, too.
Here. Start with this:
“Dear God, I don’t even like my husband/wife very much. You’ve seen the hurt and pain in our marriage. I am giving my marriage to You. Please bless it and show us how to love each other again because we don’t even know how. I want to ask that You give us eyes to see each other the way You see each of us. And I want to thank you for the work you are doing even as I ask this. Please make me into the husband/wife You want me to be. Specifically please help me forgive him/her for ______________”