Some people know what they want to be when they’re kids.
When I was a little girl the only 2 things I knew in my heart I wanted to be were a mommy and a wife. (I’ve been a wife twice. I guess I was an overachiever with that dream. Some won’t laugh at that. I get it. Not funny, but if I can find a reason to smile through all the heartache, I need to find it.)
As my oldest child and I were talking today we remembered all her friends who came to her big slumber party several years ago jokingly called me “Mommy” because I asked them all to use sippy cups because I didn’t have water bottles with lids for 20 kids but I had enough sippy cups. We didn’t want to spill on the carpet. Some of her friends still call me Mommy because of that. (I told them their moms may not appreciate them calling someone else by the Mommy name. It’s cute though and they were just being silly and being the awesome, cute kids that they are.)
The thing I can’t stop thinking about is this:
What if there’s a child who needs a mother’s love and care in Alaska and God knew this was His plan for my life a long time ago?
Maybe the reason I didn’t know yet was because I wasn’t ASKING Him what HIS plans are for my life. I was just doing what I wanted to do. Maybe also it’s that He just reveals each next step to us in His timing whether we ask or not. I can look back over 35 years and see how God’s been preparing me for this very thing.
What if there are a hundred kids who need care?
I know there are. And this is everywhere. Every city. Every place. God leads people and uses us where He wants us. We specifically feel called to move to Alaska for this work.
When someone tells you her dreams in life, although they may seem smaller to you than someone else’s dreams, her dreams may just prove to be bigger than they appear and very likely exactly what she knew as a child is exactly what God wrote into her when He knitted her together and even if she didn’t have the vocabulary or visions yet at that time to understand them or explain them, the same dreams from childhood are the same ones God will use later in life (and everything in between.)
(Being a mommy and wife are AMAZING things to be even if some don’t realize this. Being one or the other is amazing, too. And no, I’m not saying to purposefully be a single mom. I’ve been there (though not purposefully) and IT’S TOUGH! My heart goes out to single moms and dads. You guys are doing a very important job.)
Just sayin’ when people share what is most important to them, even if you think they’re not the super most important “career” choices many others are working toward, maybe just pray with them and help them see how God will use these dreams in their lives. Please stop telling people what’s impossible. He’s got a plan for each of us. He works well in the impossible.
The talents and dreams put in our hearts are there for a reason even if we can’t see the whole picture when we’re young.
Prayers for the Alaska homeless teen center are always welcome here. We don’t know everything about how to do this work but can look back and see how He’s been preparing for this over 35 years. We will keep following as He keeps leading. We know He’s preparing the way even when we can’t see all of it yet and are excited to see who else He’s calling to this mission work.
[Note: Yes, God hates divorce. But God does NOT hate divorced people and He does NOT disown you if you’ve been divorced. God uses EVERY part of our story for His Glory. You don’t have to believe me. Ask Him to do this with your story. He will.]
[Another Note: When people laugh at your God-sized dreams, be kind. Sometimes we all forget to dream big. Sometimes we forget that there is a big God over all this and it’s not actually random at all.]
As parents, we think it’s cute when our 2 year old wants to help sweep the floor.
What about when our 10 year old helps fold clothes? We’re proud (even if he doesn’t do it the way WE would do it.)
When our 15 year old does the dishes we still like the help (most of the time.) Sometimes teenagers show a little attitude and decide they know best. They’re still learning – and learn quicker if we let the consequences do the teaching. (Of course – there are times to remove the phone, computer, music, or activities. We give and sometimes we take away.)
It’s pretty amazing when our kids ask us what job they can do and ALSO listen to how to do a job (though there is still some very important learning that takes place when they don’t ask for our guidance.)
Honestly, we CAN do all these jobs on our own AND we actually would do a more careful and more thorough job on each one of them.
The thing is when we ask God what job He wants us to do, incredible things happen. He’s not going to make us ask Him. We just (hopefully) eventually get around to realizing this is the best idea.
God does not NEED us to help. He WANTS us to help Him. He ALLOWS us to help Him. He LOVES for us to help Him.
But God is God and He does not NEED us to take care of stuff.
He is MORE than capable of doing everything on His own. He created the whole universe and everything in it WITHOUT our help. (It’s a bit egotistic to think He NEEDS us to do anything, isn’t it?)
When He calls us to do a job, He doesn’t expect us to then go off and try to do it on our own. He expects us to keep asking for His guidance.
Sometimes we (grown ups) decide we know best and we learn from consequences, too. We give God a little attitude sometimes, don’t we? (And He gives and sometimes He takes away.) Yet, He’s still in our corner, cheering us on, always hoping we’ll turn to Him for help.
Sometimes I envision Him looking at me while I try to do a job without Him (which has happened plenty over my lifetime.)
He’s smiling while shaking His head and just waiting for me to ask, “Daddy? Please help?” EVERY time I ask He is there and He is always more than capable.
Remember that time when you did that thing you thought you couldn’t do? And remember how you were a little amazed by that? And if you’re honest with yourself, maybe you did it better than you thought you could?
When you think about YOU do you think more about that stuff or the “other” stuff… you know… the times you messed up… again?
The way we think about us in our own heads, about how we messed up, about how often we mess up, is just too much for our spirits sometimes. Be kinder to you.
Would you let someone else talk to you the way YOU talk to you? Would you let someone else talk to your husband, wife, kids, or parents the way you talk to you? Is it kind of… possibly… bullying yourself?
Take a breath and think something nice about you.
It is OKAY and (dare I say) “healthy” to speak and think good things about yourself and your abilities!
Somehow the world has taught us that we can’t be glad about something we’re good at or have learned to do because if we say we’re proud of it, people may think we’re bragging or conceited or whatever.
What if we make it a “good” whatever!
…whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things. Philippians 4:8
YOU are amazing. Take some time to THINK ABOUT THE GOOD THINGS ABOUT YOU. You know why I know you’re so great? Because Jesus didn’t die for “nobody.” He died for YOU. And if HE thinks you’re worth dying for, then maybe it’s time for you to see that in yourself also.