God, as we do work for You every day please always remind us this is about You and not us. Please keep us humble and not try to take the spotlight off You. Please remind us that the work we are doing is to lift You and only You. If we forget and start to like attention please take the attention and turn it back to You. Please do not let us get caught up in how the world and culture think life should be but let us remember who gave us our talents to do these jobs in the first place.
You are our Father and thank you for loving us as a good Father does. Thank you for Your Son because as a parent it’s really amazing to know You gave Your only Son as a sacrifice for our sins. How could You even do that? My mind can’t comprehend this. Thank You, God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit for guiding us, never giving up on us when we turn to You, and for Your perfect love for each of us.
Please give us words to witness to others in the way You would bless it and want us to witness. Please give us courage when someone stands against us and please give us words to speak and know when to be silent. Please give us wisdom to know when we are in the wrong and please lift our faces to look at You to find truth again. Please forgive us of our sins.
Thank You for Your Angels watching over us and thank You for making our paths straight. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
What if we left the baby in the poopy diaper because he’s comfortable and we don’t want to upset him because cleaning him up and helping him get out of the poop is a process and he’s tired and the wipes are cold and he’s pretty content the way he is.
That would be neglect.
We change the diaper because we love him SO much. It’s called caring for him. We will change the diaper EVERY time it’s poopy. That’s how it should be.
We need to care enough for each other that we help each other out of the poop our lives are in. That is not wrong to do.
We need to matter SO much to each other that we notice and take the time IN LOVE and WITH LOVE to help lift each other out of the poop.
And it MUST be IN LOVE and WITH LOVE. It takes time and kindness. Sometimes after I know you love me, I will be able to listen to you and let you care for me.
When I was a little girl in elementary school my dad would take me to have coffee and donuts sometimes early in the morning before school. I loved it. We’d sit together sipping coffee. He’d read the newspaper and I got a daddy daughter date.
I remember sitting there with all the business men and thinking how cool that was and what a lucky girl I was to get to do this with my dad.
We weren’t in a hurry.
And I got to get glazed donuts from my favorite donut place. It didn’t cost much money. Just a little of his time. These memories are some of my favorite times I ever had with just me and my dad.
Then when I was in high school my dad would send me a carnation flower for Valentine’s Day and that meant so much to me. It made me feel important. This was back when the school office would deliver all the flowers to the classrooms. Many girls would get many flowers and I really appreciate that he took a few minutes to order that one flower just for me. (Between you and me, I’m pretty sure my mom encouraged dad to do these things and that’s okay. They created special memories.)
The important thing is that it really doesn’t take big gestures and whole days to make these memories with our kids. Little girls need their daddies and good, healthy relationships with them. If there is a healthy, close relationship between a girl and her daddy, then when a boy offers his “love” a daughter makes wiser choices and won’t fall for every boy who shows her attention.
Listen to your daughters speak. Let them talk about whatever is important to them and engage in the conversation. Take your daughters on dates to show them how they should be treated.
It just matters.
[Note: I am a girl so I am writing from a girl’s perspective about her dad. There are maybe other writers who write from a son’s perspective with mom or dad. All I know is that a few minutes of real genuine, involved conversation between parents and kids matters.]