When people are unkind a lot of times it does NOT have anything at all to do with YOU.
Many times it’s unresolved stuff in someone’s life and you are the closest ~or safest~ target.
It’s hard to be happy when someone is hurting us but we CAN have some peace through the storm anyway.
Consider it pure joy when you face trials of many kinds.
James 1:2-4 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
Okay I will try BECAUSE God says to. I may have to look up the words “pure” and “joy” and start off with “watered-down joy.”
But revenge and thoughts about revenge – don’t even go there.
Romans 12:17-19 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.
You say, “But she’s really being mean. Like, REALLY!”
Be kinder anyway.
Pray for your enemies. (Have you tried it? It’s cleansing.)
Matthew 5:43-45 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.
Ask God for help. Because ultimately, He is the ONLY One with this kind of help. He can change a heart and He can open people’s eyes to the damage they’re causing.
Proverbs 25:21-22 If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you.
(Be genuine. Sarcasm and petty motives are beneath you.)
Good thought: At least if they are focused on me, they are leaving someone else alone.
What am I learning?
He must be hurting very much to treat me this way. Even though the pain may not show on the outside there must be some stuff inside that is tearing up his heart.
All things work together for good for those who love the Lord.
Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Do you hear that? ALL things.
Here’s a good way to start.
“Dear God, I really don’t FEEL like praying for _________ but I will trust You when You say to pray for our enemies. Please touch the heart of this person because I’m not feelin’ so loving toward him today….”
Romans 8:26-27 In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.
Hey YOU. You got this!