What if, instead of a one night stand, we call it what it really is?
Instead of a pick up line what if someone had to ask the “real” questions to the person he was hoping to hook up with?
Would this change anything?
“Hey, you’re cute. I’m feeling selfish. I know God gave you a beautiful gift and it’s not really for me but I’d like to take some of what He wants you to save for your husband (or wife, if a girl is asking a guy.)
Would you please lower your standards and let me tear off a piece of your beautiful wrapping paper? You could just lie to your future husband or act like nothing ever happened with me.
I’m lonely tonight and you don’t even know your husband yet so how about you give some of HIS treasure to ME?”
OR maybe it goes like this:
“Heeyy. What’s up? I’d like to give you some of what is supposed to be my wife’s some day.
I know you’re not my wife but since she’s not here yet, she probably won’t care. I’ll tell her she’s so special later, “blah blah blah…” but I’ll make it sound more meaningful than that, of course. (Honestly, you don’t mean enough to me to mention you to my future wife anyway.)
Right now, today, you’re the only one I want. But tomorrow, who knows?!
I’d like to steal from your husband and one day you’ll wish we didn’t do this (and I will too.) So whatdaya think? Want to?!”
There is not enough cologne or make-up to make this be anything other than what it is.
What if we did think about this for what it really is?
I did NOT know I had value. I honestly did not understand that even though my innocence was stolen when I was 9, I STILL had value. Throughout my life, some stole from me and some I gave away; truly not having any understanding that I mattered. That old devil is clever and designs custom-made traps for each of us.
But I wouldn’t change my past because everything in my life has brought me to this place where I will spend the rest of my time telling you that YOU MATTER.
~~~> If people stole some of your beautiful gift OR even if you voluntarily gave it away, you are NOT damaged goods! YOU are worthwhile! <~~~
Check this out.
Recently we replaced the broken face on my husband’s phone. About 2 weeks later we noticed it was cracked again! We took it and paid for a new protective cover for the broken phone.
When the guy walked to the counter with the phone, it went like this, “We have never put a cover on an already cracked phone before.”
Just because the phone has a broken part does not mean we want to trash the rest of it.
~~> We want to cover it with protection so that it does not get more broken. <~~
Just like when we mess up, we don’t want to keep messing up and making bad choices. We want to “cover” our lives in prayer and protection.
When we are in a car wreck and the bumper is crushed and the tire busted, we don’t smash out the windows and slash the other tires.
We don’t hope for another wreck.
We try to avoid more damage to the car.
Purity is beautiful. YOU are beautiful. All of your story matters. And God will take all the broken pieces and make them into something worth sharing. It’s called your testimony. And it’s important.
When you see people giving themselves away, it’s very possible they do not know their worth in Christ yet. Saying a prayer for God to show them their worth in Him can help change the world.
[Note: I wrote this as if a guy is speaking to a girl (or a girl to a guy) but if you’re having a sexual relationship with someone of the same gender, I’m here to tell you that you matter and you STILL are giving away (or people are stealing) something that does NOT belong to them. You don’t have to prove something.
Please don’t let people treat you as if you are less than the beautiful person you are.]
[Note 2: This story can be read as a woman speaking or a man speaking pick up lines.
The value is the same. It does not change. We ALL matter. And we are not supposed to be using each other because God has a better plan.
When we understand the reasons WHY to (or not to) do something, it makes a whole lot more sense than just telling someone to (or not to) do it.]
[Important: THIS is not FOR or AGAINST political stuff.
A sin is a sin. I’m not going to argue with people about what sin is. Our conscience shows us that. Usually when we are healthy we realize something is a sin and we hide it (like Adam and Eve hid in the Garden of Eden) or we may even become belligerent about it, trying to justify it to people. The Holy Spirit will convict our hearts to show us what is better for us and when He does this, we want Him to lead us more. When we know better, we do better.
God made sex. And He made it to be a beautiful part of a relationship. We messed it up.
But just because it’s been messed up, doesn’t mean to KEEP messing it up.
Purity is beautiful.]
You are NOT damaged goods! YOU are worthwhile!