A marriage relationship is important and tough (probably tougher than any other relationship ever in the whole world, in my opinion) and worth the work.
I’m always looking for simple ways to help relationships be as close and as healthy as they can be. My husband and I have just started doing a few new things for our marriage and we’re noticing this one could be helpful in possibly any relationship.
Here is one experiment we’ve just started a couple weeks ago (and we both like it.)
Every morning we have decided to say (out loud to each other) something good we have noticed or something good that we like about each other.
“One thing I like about you is _____________.”
We get too busy in life sometimes, ya know? With work, school, church, kids, housework, bills, finances, volunteering, rough times, health problems, and a billion more things we can forget to nurture important foundations and critical relationships. It’s not that we mean to; but it’s just that life happens and sometimes we let moments go by that need attentionThis is proving to be a great idea.
One thing it does is it helps us THINK about the positive things during each day (and night) because we know we need to tell each other something we like about each other every day.
(And the negative stuff seems to constantly already be lurking around and threatens to remind us of things we DON’T like about each other… Not sure about you but I’ve had ENOUGH of that.)
Another important result of this experiment is that we’re both getting to hear some positive words in the morning. (Yes, it must be genuine and yes it can be something from the past or present. Actually, it could even be something positive we see in the future.) Getting to hear blessings spoken over you is powerful.
Our kids just told us they’d like to be included in this in the evenings. Good stuff can be contagious.
We ALL probably hear WAY too much negative stuff about ourselves (even from our own thoughts) and this is damaging to our brains, hearts, self esteem, and probably in a hundred other ways I’m not thinking to mention.
If you have a great marriage, that’s wonderful! Maybe this can just be icing. (And maybe you’re already doing this.) But many of us have a tougher time in marriage and I know this can help lots of people and wanted to share this idea.
I believe absolutely EVERY person could benefit from hearing something good every day that someone notices about him or her.
Here’s one from me to you today: One thing I like about you (yes, you, the person reading this) is that you’re beginning to realize your value; you’re a very worthwhile person and you matter.
Wow! I am this week’s recipient of my youngest daughter’s Wednesday Letter! She brought tears to my eyes. It is a very sweet letter.
It’s due Wednesday morning but she turned it in early. I was surprised to see “Mommy” written on the envelope today.
My oldest daughter is a few letters ahead (but that isn’t a free ticket to miss next week’s letter.) I still would like them both to turn in a Wednesday Letter every week. Extra letters are always okay.
“Wednesday Letters” is something I prayed about when we began homeschooling and feel God led us to start.
My oldest had had an assignment when she was in public high school where each student was required to write a note to each person in class each week. This was something I was reminded of when deciding how our homeschool would look.
My kids pray over who they should write letters to and a letter is due every Wednesday morning from each of them.
The letters need to be uplifting, thanking someone for somehow touching their lives, maybe speaking life, or just, “Hey, I noticed when you….”
The reason they are due Wednesday mornings is because if they need to be mailed, the letters may have time to get to the recipients by the weekend (but even if they get there Monday, it’s a pretty cool way to start the week.)
The letters may be emailed, texted, mailed, but written is important. (IF for some reason they cannot be written though, then speaking them to someone on the phone or in person is still a great idea. We don’t want anything to get in the way of getting an encouraging message to anyone.)
This may seem small but it’s turning out to be one of my favorite things (and it’s not just for homeschoolers.)
I am praying this becomes something very big because we ALL could use more encouragement and more noticers in the world.
Being the recipient of this today has made me realize Wednesday Letters may become much more than it seemed at first. It’s truly touched my heart and made my week better knowing my daughter prayed and God put my name on her heart.
I pray this spreads like wildfire. The world is starving for all the blessings that have been left unspoken.
If you decide to write some Wednesday Letters we’d love to hear from you.