We saw a couple in a store one time. The wife started speaking louder and sounded pretty upset.
To my husband it seemed that she was upset without much reason. He didn’t see or hear anything before that so she probably was overreacting.
To me, it was obvious that she was exhausted from the broken communication between the two of them.
We neither one ever found out what was the reason for their argument that day several years ago.
But marriage has been under attack since Adam and Eve.
We want to blame.
Whatever has happened (and it looks different in each situation) HOW do you find the way to truly forgive and still live with someone who caused such damage?
The enemy wants to separate and isolate each of us and he does this in about a billion custom-designed, clever ways (including all those things we run to for imitation comfort.)
Here’s the best answer I can find.
“You want to make this a fight of flesh and blood.
But it’s not.
It’s spiritual with the powers of darkness.
The enemy is AFRAID of what YOU can truly become.”
-the movie King’s Faith
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. -Ephesians 6:12
Prayer. And The Incredible Power of The God behind the prayer.
God, ONLY YOU KNOW the inside of each marriage. Please heal broken lives and hearts. Please revive and make stronger what has been under attack for so very long. Please let Your words be spoken and let us see each other with Your eyes. In Jesus’ Name, please God, Amen.
[P.S. I’ve found this helps with more than just marriage. I try to remember this now when I’m upset with anyone or any situation: There’s probably ALWAYS more than we can see.]
[Note: Forgiveness and staying daily in a dangerous situation are NOT the same things (though there are those who disagree.) I will ALWAYS pray for safety for everyone. If you need to get out, I pray for you to get out safely.]
Wow! I am this week’s recipient of my youngest daughter’s Wednesday Letter! She brought tears to my eyes. It is a very sweet letter.
It’s due Wednesday morning but she turned it in early. I was surprised to see “Mommy” written on the envelope today.
My oldest daughter is a few letters ahead (but that isn’t a free ticket to miss next week’s letter.) I still would like them both to turn in a Wednesday Letter every week. Extra letters are always okay.
“Wednesday Letters” is something I prayed about when we began homeschooling and feel God led us to start.
My oldest had had an assignment when she was in public high school where each student was required to write a note to each person in class each week. This was something I was reminded of when deciding how our homeschool would look.
My kids pray over who they should write letters to and a letter is due every Wednesday morning from each of them.
The letters need to be uplifting, thanking someone for somehow touching their lives, maybe speaking life, or just, “Hey, I noticed when you….”
The reason they are due Wednesday mornings is because if they need to be mailed, the letters may have time to get to the recipients by the weekend (but even if they get there Monday, it’s a pretty cool way to start the week.)
The letters may be emailed, texted, mailed, but written is important. (IF for some reason they cannot be written though, then speaking them to someone on the phone or in person is still a great idea. We don’t want anything to get in the way of getting an encouraging message to anyone.)
This may seem small but it’s turning out to be one of my favorite things (and it’s not just for homeschoolers.)
I am praying this becomes something very big because we ALL could use more encouragement and more noticers in the world.
Being the recipient of this today has made me realize Wednesday Letters may become much more than it seemed at first. It’s truly touched my heart and made my week better knowing my daughter prayed and God put my name on her heart.
I pray this spreads like wildfire. The world is starving for all the blessings that have been left unspoken.
If you decide to write some Wednesday Letters we’d love to hear from you.